What happens after the wedding
day and the steamy honeymoon is over? A question pops up – “What’s next
darling?”
It’s tough to listen to your
elders when you are young and in love, and about to be married. While those
voices may come from experiences, it’s your relationship and everyone has
issues and problems. No one really knows what’s happening in a marriage except
the two people in it, and hence we all have the freedom to write our own rules
about how a marriage will last.
In the Indian subcontinent, where
marriages are mostly arranged, and 74% of India believes arranged marriage is
better, online matrimonial sites offer a
variety based on customised searches that typically include nationality, age
and gender.
Now, who you search will decide
on whether the marriage will last forever or not, at the same time, you need to
think out of the box to ensure that the essence of marriage stays alive.
The internet and bookstores are
abuzz with tips and information on how to make a marriage last, and one common
point on what it takes to make a marriage last is the aspect of communication.
It is easy to say listen well and talk it to out, but difficult to be done. To
communicate well, you need to know yourself well, know what you really like and
what you don’t like, you know yourself best, the one you could listen to and
talk to. Talk to your partner the way you would talk to yourself, listen to
your partner the way you would hear yourself out.
Another problem that’s common is
jealousy. Often mistaken as a sign of love, it is actually the fear of lack of
love. You may be possessive and protective about the one you love, but don’t
let jealousy creep in. Let your partner know that you love him or her with
absolute trust.
And don’t compare your relationship
with others. You don’t know what’s really happening behind the veil. Everyone
has their own ways of sustaining a marriage. Concentrate on sustaining yours.
Marriages are not happily ever after fairy tales, you need to make it so. Lower
your expectations. Expecting perfection in a marriage is a fast ticket to
disappointment. A marriage runs on multiple tracks, which could also be some
parallel tracks, and that’s what marital bliss is all about. Enjoy a committed marriage along with your personal adventures.
